And wild is the wind



Rachelle, Turtle Island.
My inner thoughts & daily interactions.
The spectrum of pregnancy, pro-choice ideologies,
social justice, recipes, herbalism, menstruation,
mysticism, DIY/DIT, music making, and traveling
great distances to my soul catchers.
I would love to speak to you and share with you.

#scallops #smokedoysters #asparagusspinach #alfrado

#scallops #smokedoysters #asparagusspinach #alfrado

p cute eh?

p cute eh?

Behold

Behold

(via bluecohosh)

#trout #asparaguskale #mashedsweetpotatoesonionmushroom

#trout #asparaguskale #mashedsweetpotatoesonionmushroom

#pumpkin #plays

#zines

#zines

#likeaboss #doneclass #forever

#likeaboss #doneclass #forever

#getmeoutofthisplace #brescia #graduation #done

#getmeoutofthisplace #brescia #graduation #done

"Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom. But the personality formed in an environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life. The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative. She approaches the tasks of early adulthood—establishing independence and intimacy—burdened by major impairments in self-care, in cognition and memory, in identity, and in the capacity to form stable relationships. She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to create a new life, she reencounters the trauma."

— Judith Herman (via funeral)

(Source: disabledbyculture, via queerkenosis)

Wait listed for the MSW program, may not know if I do/do not get in until September. Super sad.

MY UofT MSW LETTER IS AT MY HOUSE AND IM STUCK IN CLASS UNTIL 10PM FML

Waiting...and waiting...and waiting

bonesofbirch:

For:

A response from my Master’s in Social Work application
A response from a job working on assessing healthcare needs and access to services for HIV+ women (got the job…I’m pretty much amazing!)
My mark back from my astronomy midterm (better than last time, but still not so good)
To know when…

Getting there!

Last paper of my undergraduate DONE!

Only four exams left. 

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People can forgive toxic parents, but they should do it at the conclusion—not at the beginning—of their emotional housecleaning. People need to get angry about what happened to them. They need to grieve over the fact that they never had the parental love they yearned for. They need to stop diminishing or discounting the damage that was done to them. Too often, “forgive and forget” means “pretend it didn’t happen.”

I also believe that forgiveness is appropriate only when parents do something to earn it. Toxic parents, especially the more abusive ones, need to acknowledge what happened, take responsibility, and show a willingness to make amends. If you unilaterally absolve parents who continue to treat you badly, who deny much of your reality and feelings, and who continue to project blame onto you, you may seriously impede the emotional work you need to do. If one or both parents are dead, you can still heal the damage, by forgiving yourself and releasing much of the hold that they had over your emotional well-being.

At this point, you may be wondering, understandably, if you will remain bitter and angry for the rest of your life if you don’t forgive your parents. In fact, quite the opposite is true. What I have seen over the years is that emotional and mental peace comes as a result of releasing yourself from your toxic parents’ control, without necessarily having to forgive them. And that release can come only after you’ve worked through your intense feelings of outrage and grief and after you’ve put the responsibility on their shoulders, where it belongs.

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Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, ch 9 (via fromonesurvivortoanother)

For all y’all with parents who’ve hurt you, or others you love.